Heartbreak — find that silver linings again.
“You have to do everything you can, you have to work your hardest and if you stay positive. You have a shot at the silver lining,” said Pat, from the movie, Silver Linings Playbook. Recently, I watched this movie once again, and this time, it made more sense to me — than the first.
Those who have watched this movie can understand what’s its all about. Heartbreak — is undoubtedly one of the most difficult phases of life. The sufferings are inevitable. No matter how much one tries to escape it — they have to endure the pain — at least for some time. Sometimes it takes years to come out of it, while sometimes just months. Nevertheless, with the right motto of your life, setting on the correct path, and focusing on good — one can definitely!
More importantly, even with just one right kind of person — this difficult time passes by. After all: “In a world where no one understands, its good to finally find someone who can.” — dialogue from the film.
All you have to do is believe in the brighter side. It all starts from realising, accepting, and forgiving.
Its always better to address and understand your feelings. What you are feeling, why you are feeling, and then to work towards it. That’s one of the basic steps to move on. Before reading this, I would like to ensure you that, breakup is not “end” to anything. Your new life has just begun, which is waiting to be explored with the new perspective you have just gained. Excelsior — find that silver lining!
There are many ways to cope up with the breakup. But, acceptance of it is most important. Accept your mistakes, accept your partner’s mistakes — accept what happened is for the betterment of both in future. You need to understand the reason behind the breakup. People fall out of love at a certain point, and you need to understand why? What lacked in your relationship that led to this heartbreak. Were you difficult or was your partner? Was there understanding in your fights or was there not. There are multiple things — you can list down and understand from it.
Surely you had great moments too. But, maybe it was the imbalance of these two, which led to this unprecedented decision. For now, you may be finding yourself questioning — all the odds — yourself and your partner. Find those answers if you can, but if you don’t then there is no point digging into it. No point running into the past, and chasing people who have already gone.
Rather, why not bring forth this energy to change yourself, your perspective towards life, what you lacked — make yourself a better person in every way. The change begins from yourself, changing your perspective, and making a point to not repeat the same mistakes again (most important). There is no hard and fast rule on how you do it — as it just starts from little efforts, direct those negative thoughts to the positive one, when you find yourself overthinking start doing things you like the most, or just talk to a person — get it out of the head what’s troubling you. Never bottle up the thoughts, because with that you can never move on. The more you let go, the better you will be.
Moreover, in this phase, many people believe that their ‘ex’ are the only ones, who they can ever love. But it’s totally a ‘misconception’ — I believe.
For instance, though its fictional, Pat believed Nikki is the only woman he loves, and who understands him, etc etc.. but eventually he fell for Tiffany, who helped to find him again. There are many incidences I have heard in real life too, where individuals after the heartbreak thought they won’t be able to find love again or fall in love again.
But, they did. And that’s the silver lining. Don’t restrict yourself from falling in love again, with yourself or with someone else, or don’t restrict yourself from enjoying life again. Set yourself free to feel that beautiful feeling once again. You never know, maybe this time it will be more beautiful, and understanding than it was ever.
Every person on this Earth is unique — and possess the potential to achieve so much in life. Heartbreaks are part of life. Its good to go through that phase to become a strong person. Cherish each and every moment of your life and help others in achieving their best. Don’t waste your time and energy, on what’s gone. If you have faith, if you believe — then all bad times will change and there will be a happy ending.
And for now, I would like to close with this beautiful dialogue of Pat, from the movie, “the world will break your heart, that’s guaranteed. I think of what everyone did for me, and I feel like a very lucky guy.”
Mrigakshi
